some of you haven’t stayed up late to read a 100k+ word fic even though you had to be up early the next day and it shows
a list of simple yet beautiful things to live for:
- the feeling of sunlight on your skin
- the smell of pastries as you pass by a bakery
- being wrapped up in a blanket with a cup of hot chocolate in your hands on a cold night
- holding hands with the person you can’t imagine living without
- discovering a new favorite song and listening to it on repeat
- having a relaxing bath after a long exhausting day
- secretly admiring a beautiful stranger you saw on the train
nervous to be starting school again soon (kind of). taking pre-reqs at a cc but already having my bachelors degree i’m worried i’ll be stuck in a lab group with 18 year olds who don’t know what they’re doing
It’s not that you have issues…… it’s that you have a tendency to continue using instincts you picked up in childhood that are no longer useful to you on your journey towards achieving openness and intimacy and reliability in your personal relationships w others. It’s not that you’re defective or difficult or incapable it’s just that what you learned to do to save yourself from the experience of abandonment or rejection or ridicule or failure is not helpful here anymore and you need to start thinking creatively and collaborating on better ways to cope with that instrinsic fear that you are not correct, that you are faking, that you will be found out and left, whatever it is
You’re tested, not by what you can do with ease or in times of ease, but what you do with difficulty. Your kindness towards the one who hurts you. Your generosity when giving more than you have. Your patience in all hardships. Your acceptance of people no matter their judgments. Your calm when provoked. Your hand to the one who bites back. Your strength to get back up when you’re knocked down, to the simplest smile on the most difficult of days. Such attributes can only be genuine when reciprocity (or lack thereof) do not influence them. No gains, just a pure heart.
communication is so damn sexy
busy for the day, but you hit me with a “i love you, but i need to do some work today, so I wont reply for a while” message? mmmm sext!!
gonna be distant for a while because of something personal, but took the time to send me a “dont worry it’s not about you but i need some personal time rn” text? ill be looking at wedding rings, while you get yourself where you need to be!!
basically, you don’t need grand gestures or to be present and available 24/7 to relay to someone that they are wildly important to you… you just need considerate fractions of moments and communication.
